Great way to start out the new year.
A guy I know from high school found me in December on Facebook. At first, I wasn't sure who this guy was because for the longest time I thought his name was Patrick. Don't ask. And when I realized who it was, I was like, "Okay, I know you. I'll add you as a friend." If I had known he would have been this annoying, I would have just not have cared and ignored him. Sadly, I made the mistake of being nice, yet once again.
This guy has been trying to talk to me nonstop on FaceBook Chat. There are a few things I will explain that make this terrible for me.
1)I hate talking on Facebook Chat. I also hate that it is connected with the PMs. I really like sending longer PMs about overall subject matters and ask people personal questions not necessarily to discuss where the public can see. I don't like to just talk as if it is a messenger. If it is a good friend, I may but then again, all of my good friends have a messenger I am willing to talk with on namely Skype and occasionally Yahoo.
2) I don't know this guy that well. I hate being rude to anyone but it is annoying to have to contacted almost every hour when I am really not on Facebook. It may show that I am online, possibly because the tab is up and running, but that doesn't mean I am always free to talk. He acts as if I am there to talk specifically to him. When we do, he is always sounding a little needy and lonely. I can't even stomach some of the stuff he talks about concerning the past with high school. I really would much rather ignore most of it because a lot of bad happened in high school for me. Not with him, but in general. I am just not comfortable talking with him over FaceBook Chat.
3)He immediately insisted that I look at his profile and copy his number down into my phone. I don't intend on doing that to someone I barely know and have only met a few times. And I won't want to if asked or ordered to. I don't like to be told what to do. If I wanted to add you into my phone, I would on my own. Not by what you want of me to do.
Getting around to my point, he supposedly went to my page and found my phone number, which I don't remember putting on page but I guess I did. And then he wished me a Happy New Year on my phone. I thought that was rude. You didn't ask me if you could put my number into your phone. It isn't there for just anyone to find. I have my profile set to private for a reason and yes, I welcome friends to add me into their phone, but I expect them to ask first. It is rude to just go ahead and add me without asking. I had to ask who's number it was because I haven't had the time or effort to look at yours, but I knew it was within the area so I figured it may be a friend I neglected to add the last time I got a new phone. But it was him. I have nothing against him, but he has been on my nerves lately with contacting me rudely or neglectfully considering the matter at hand. When I say this, I mean commenting on posts he obviously has an issue with (namely a post I posted about a Church who said they accept al people of orientations whether gay, straight, bi as well as transexual and that God welcomes and loves them all). I support the post and after looking at hi profile once I noticed he was a Born-Again Christian who does not support Gay Rights and has an issue with it. Now, personally I feel he is being a little ignorant with his beliefs and not fully a true believer in them because the Christians I have met are tolerant of everyone despite race and orientation or sexual status. They do not judge because they believe God loves everyone, as he should.
So, I have had issue with him for a month now almost and when he contacted me on my phone he was asking me questions I was not comfortable with. Nothing sexual, may I clear those thoughts in the gutter. He was insisting I call him because he doesn't like texting. He uses the speech provider on his Android. Personally, I hate talking on the phone. I rarely make personal calls to anyone. One or two people may be pleasured with a rare chance of talking to me for an hour on the phone but not everyone. I only talk on the phone to call my parents and let them know something or everything is alright, to make calls to the internet service provider or roadside service, a small chat with a friend about getting together but for the most part I text or talk to people electronically in writing. I hate talking on the phone. He then tried to compromise with me to call him once a week. Excuse me? Who are you to decide that for yourself? I just said I am not interesting in talking to you on the phone and you are trying to insist I talk to you regularly every week. I don't have time to do that sir. I have college to consider, artwork to do, family life to consider, other plans, other stuff on my palette. I don't have time to make a schedule phone conversation with you because you want me to. That is inconsiderate and rude to even consider that without considering that maybe we are just not that close to talk that way with or the fact we barely know each other and that I don't want to. I can't put you first simply because texting inconveniences you.
So, I have been having an issue with this guy and been very irritable with him. As irritable as I have been with a girl I know who wants me to talk with her because it convinces her. I am not going to talk to people I have little in common or have an issue with to some degree whether by their actions or how immature their thinking can be. She threaded to defined me if I didn't explain why I was ignoring her. I don't have to explain myself to anyone. It is my choice not to talk to someone just as it is your choice to talk to someone. And you only contacted me because you were in town, no other time. So it only benefited you to talk with me because you thought you were closer to me by distance. If you were a good friend, you would talk to me no matter what, regardless of distance and time. But speaking of which, I can't just talk with you at any chance you want me to. Like I said, I am busy and it is the holidays so double that. I also said that the tab is up and running but that doesn't mean I am available. I like to use FaceBook to check up on close friends and read the hilarious posts George Takei posts because it is like Tumblr only with less obsession and more humor.
So, for 2013, I am going to make a Resolution like no other.
If I feel that I am only a friend to you because it benefits you and you feel like you need someone to talk to, then you are not my friend and will be defined. I will not be used like that or give into requests that I find unreasonable. This is not concerning my close friends who I know are too busy to talk with me most of the time or I can talk regularly with on a messenger. And this does not concern old acquaintances from school like CCA or Creekview that don't bother me over trivial matters and are just on my list as mutual acquaintances who respect one another. One old friend on my list from CCAwas respectful to talk with me not only catch up but also give me her condolences over the lost of my cat. That was sweet of her and she spent no ill will of being rude and only thinking of herself. She simply wanted to say she was sorry for my lost and catch up some which was nice. She was providing a mutual respect and sense of love that I admired in her.
People like that are people I will talk to. I will talk with them if they at some point care more about the person they are talking rather than what is on their own mind and need someone to confide in. I won't just answer anyone who wants to confide in me. There are a few people on my list who only care about confiding in me. Why me, I will never know.
Maybe they assume I am the good-natured person to accept anyones troubles and share it with them and be that shoulder to cry on. I am not going to do that 24/7. I am not going to consider everyone's feelings and act like I care. In some cases, maybe I side logically with the person they have an issue with. I won't just hear out the crybabies who only care about their side of the story. If they can't be logical and mature about something, I won't be a goody-goody two shoes and let them cry on my shoulder. I would much rather slap them in the face and tell them to grow up and to accept that these things happen and that if they are not responsible and mature about the matter then need a reality check. I'm sorry, but I am not going to sugarcoat their life for them simply so they can feel better about themselves. That is not the best way to handle issues or problems. I have learned that myself. So I am not going to make it seem like everyone is alright simply because I say it is. I am also not going to take their BS. It is just insane.
So, I am done with people like that. I may even delete them from my friendliest simply because I choose that people like that have no place my life and never will. If they want to grow up and be mature and prove it to me, then I may consider them but otherwise they are just children to me. I won't deal with people who still think they are teenagers with all of these personal issues on their shoulders and that the only person that matters with them is themselves. So, no thank you. I won't handle that shit anymore. Good day.
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